This Kills Confidence

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You don’t hate yourself.

You just don’t trust yourself.

You say you’re going to get up early.

But you hit snooze.

You say you’re going to train.

But you flake.

You say you’re going to get serious about your goals.

But open TikTok instead.

And every time you do that, you teach your brain a lesson:

‘My word doesn’t mean sh*t.’

That’s why your confidence is low.

That’s why you overthink everything.

That’s why deep down, you don’t believe you’ll pull it off.

(Whatever ‘it’ means to you.)

Because you’ve stacked too many broken promises.

Too many lies to yourself.

Confidence Doesn’t Come From Hype. It Comes From Proof.

You can read affirmations all day.

You can post motivational quotes.

And you can visualize your future self.

But none of that matters if your actions don’t match.

Confidence is built when your behavior backs your words.

Or rather:

Confidence comes from competence.

When you say, “I’m going to train today,” and then you train;

When you say, “I’m going to cut sugar,” and you actually do;

When you say, “I’m going to build something,” and you show up every day to build it…

…that’s when you start to trust yourself again.

Not because of a mindset shift.

Not because of a morning routine.

Because of evidence.

Start With Micro Promises

As the saying goes:

How you do one thing is how you do everything.

Meaning that the confident mindset I’m referring to comes from every single action.

And yes, that means the big goals.

But it also means the small mundane things, too.

So, don’t overcomplicate it.

Start with this:

🔒 Pick one daily promise that’s small, but non-negotiable.

e.g., 10 pushups every morning, no phone after 9pm, writing for 15 minutes a day, a 60-second cold shower before work.

Not because it’s going to change your life instantly…

But because it teaches your brain: “When I say something, I do it.”

Keep that up for a week.

Then make the promise a little harder.

20 push-ups. Two minutes in the shower.

It’s progressive overload, but for your mind.

That’s how trust gets built.

And once you trust yourself again, the game changes.

Because a person who trusts themselves doesn’t need motivation.

They don’t need approval.

They don’t hesitate.

They decide.

And they follow through.

Much love,

Mason – Founder of New Mentalities